Why are “naturally thin” and “born with a fast metabolism” totally acceptable explanations for weight, but “naturally fat” and “born with a slow metabolism” seen as “excuses” for “laziness/irresponsibility/greediness”?
I wanted to have a place of reference for all of the shows that I’ve seen on Youtube. I think it’s an amazing phenomenon of Black queer media that needs to be documented and supported. I hope you all find some new shows to watch. This isn’t an exhaustive list. Just things I like or found.
What does casual racism look like in LGBTQ spaces? A lot like casual racism everywhere else.
Casual racism thinks mixed race people are “exotic,” penis size is determined by race according to “some studies” that probably don’t exist, black women are aggressive, and just about every other common racial stereotype under the sun.
Really, stereotypes fuel casual racism in all its forms.
Casual racism also thinks that LGBTQ people have transcended all responsibility for dealing with racial issues.
For example, if you’re a queer person of color who wants to vocalize a racial concern in a predominantly white queer space and casual racism rears its head, you could be accused of being divisive (extra irony points if you were pointing out divisiveness that actually exists).
Sometimes casual racism masquerades as inclusion or open mindedness. For example, there are some gay people who go out of their way to date someone of another race just to say they’ve done it.
Such gays then receive the Congratulatory Cookie of Open Mindedness from people of color for letting us sleep with them.
But not really, because dating someone because of their race is as ridiculous as rejecting someone because of their race.
The same applies to predominately white gay groups that go out of their way to snag token people of color (oblivious to the fact that these spaces don’t always feel inclusive to the people of color in question).
Tokenism may seem progressive on its surface, but it’s really just another form of othering.
So if you see casual racism, remember it. And talk about it.
Notice if you’re ever guilty of it and, if you are, take responsibility for it.
I would say explain it to other white LGBTQ people, but it’s frustrating when it takes a white person saying the same thing people of color have been saying for ages to convince other white people to change their actions.
Instead, tell them to take the race related concerns of LGBTQ people of color seriously – as in listen to us.
As LGBTQ people, we get silenced all the time, told we’re too sensitive, told not to flaunt our sexuality.
Sexual minorities of color can find themselves silenced further when their concerns about race are dismissed by the predominantly white, mainstream LGBTQ community.
“Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.”—The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via professorpinka)
“In the U.S., where ninety-six percent of the reported perpetrators of rape are white, eighty percent of the men in prison for rape are black.”—Joseph Weinberg & Michael Biernbaum, Conversations of Consent: Sexual Intimacy without Sexual Assault (via cocknbull)
There seems to be a huge misunderstanding concerning what consent is when it comes to sex. And yet — when discussed with teenagers — the idea that “unless someone says ‘yes’, it’s not consent,” is easily accepted. It’s not a hard conversation: Unless you get a “Yes,” assume “No.” Uncomfortable, maybe, but difficult? Hardly.
Please make the line between a clear “Yes” and anything else — whether it be someone drunk, asleep, or otherwise unable to say “No” — something schools must cover in health or sex ed.
If STI information and methods of contraception are standard fare, consent should be, too.
If you don’t talk about consent, it isn’t sex ed.
I’m really appalled and disappointed by the lack of notes this got yesterday. This is about consent. This is crucial. Please signal boost it!
This might sound like a strange question but, do you need to be a certain age to purchase a vibrator? ‘cause i know for condoms you have to be 17, the age of consent, but is there one for vibrators?
No no no! You don’t need to be a certain age to buy condoms, it doesn’t matter if you’re under the age of consent or not! I’ve never heard of a shop imposing a limit, and although I suppose some might, I’m not even sure that would be legal. Anyway, there is definitely no age limit law on buying condoms like there is for alchol, for example.
As for vibrators, there’s no legal age limit, but some sex stores / websites have an 18+ door policy. But nobody’s gonna card you at the checkout!
It’s an all too common, if shocking story: A transgender Latina woman with HIV is attacked on a street close to her home in a low-income neighborhood in the Bay Area. Making a bad situation worse, police officers literally drag her from her bed at 6 a.m. because they think she committed the crime herself.
“They kept telling her she wasn’t who she was, and that she was a man,” explained María Carolina Morales of the San Francisco-based Communities United Against Violence as she recounted the incident to Colorlines. “She was arrested. She was taken to the station. She wasn’t listened to. She spent the weekend in jail.”
The woman went to court a month after her arrest, but disappeared shortly after her court date.
“She was somebody who was unemployed, who didn’t have a safety net,” noted Morales. “We don’t know if she ran away, if she ended up in jail or [was] transferred to another place, another city. Her phone was disconnected the day after court. We just don’t know—don’t know what happened.”
The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs released its annual report on hate violence motivated by sexual orientation, gender identity and expression and HIV status last week. The report documents 27 anti-LGBT murders in 2010, which is the second highest annual total recorded since 1996. A whopping 70 percent of these 27 victims were people of color; 44 percent of them were transgender women.
The study also found that transgender people and people of color are each twice as likely to experience violence or discrimination as non-transgender white people. Transgender people of color are also almost 2.5 times as likely to experience discrimination as their white peers.
“It wasn’t a shock,” said Morales, whose organization is among the 17 anti-violence programs from across the country that contributed data to the NCAVP report. “For the last four years we’ve seen that trend—of transgender women and people of color in our communities experiencing higher levels of violence. Sadly that continues.”
Recent headlines certainly bear witness to this disturbing trend.
A Milwaukee judge sentenced Andrew Olaciregui to an 11-year prison sentence in December after he pleaded guilty to shooting Chanel Larkin three times in the head on a street corner in May 2010. Prosecutors maintain Olaciregui shot Larkin after he offered to pay her $20 to perform a sex act and found out she was transgender. Larkin was 26 at the time of her death.
In another high-profile case, Hakim Scott and Keith Phoenix both received decades-long prison sentences last summer for their role in the death of Ecuadorian immigrant José Sucuzhañay on a Brooklyn street in December 2008. Prosecutors contend Scott and Phoenix shouted anti-gay and anti-Latino slurs at Sucuzhañay as they attacked him with a baseball bat and bottles.
Juan José Matos Martínez received a 99-year prison sentence in May 2010 after he pleaded guilty to stabbing gay Puerto Rican teenager Jorge Steven López Mercado to death before decapitating, dismembering and partially burning his body and dumping it along a remote roadside in November 2009.
So what causes disproportionate rates of violence against transgender people and queer people of color?
“What the 2010 report allows us to do is document something we’ve seen and experienced for a long time,” said Ejeris Dixon of the New York City Anti-Violence Project, which wrote the bulk of the NCAVP report. “It’s really about an intersection of oppression.”
Dixon, who was a long-time staffer at Brooklyn-based Audre Lorde Project until she joined AVP earlier this year, said a lack of employment, housing and health care for transgender people all contribute to disproportionate rates of violence. Morales said that ongoing police harassment against these communities is an additional factor, making those most at-risk for hate violence also least likely to seek help.
“All of those things sanction violence,” said Dixon.
The NCAVP report found that half of those who experienced hate violence did not contact the police after their attack. The report further found that 25.4 percent of transgender women did not file a report. So what can be done to reduce these rates of violence against LGBT people and communities of color?
The Audre Lorde Project is among the groups that organize LGBT people in communities of color that are increasingly looking beyond law enforcement and the criminal justice system for a solution. The Safe OUTside the System Collective works with bodegas, businesses and organizations within Brooklyn’s Bedford-Stuyvesant neighborhood and surrounding areas to create safe spaces for LGBT people of color to curb violence.
“What’s true and important is our communities have been and continue to organize around issues of harassment—whether it’s neighborhood or community harassment or [harassment] by the police,” said Kris Hayashi, executive director of the Audre Lorde Project.
Morales stressed that empowering transgender people and people of color to participate in decision making processes around employment, health care, improved access to food and affordable housing is another key component to addressing the problem. “For that, our organizations and institutions need to prioritize opening spaces for people to develop their leadership, to be able to engage, to learn and make decisions and so that they can see themselves not only reflected, but see themselves in the process.”
Another potential solution is for anti-violence programs to tackle some of the underlying disparities that contribute to increased violence against LGBT people and people of color.
“That can mean a lot of things: We can talk about low-cost programs, intersections with immigration rights groups,” said Dixon. “It’s about crafting programming that focuses on these populations and also developing leadership of LGBT people of color and trans people.”
While Morales conceded these most recent statistics are grim, she said she remains hopeful that they will allow her organization and others around the country to develop more effective strategies to tackle hate violence. She stressed, however, this hasn’t happened as much as she would like to see.
“It hasn’t been significantly stepped up enough,” said Morales, referring to strategies to further engage community members in the solution. “However, I have seen a lot more conversations and dialogue opening up around the community—the prison population continues to significantly increase every year, and violence continues to increase. I don’t believe its working. COAV doesn’t believe its working. I am hopeful [the report] will open up more opportunities to question the strategy to violence response.”
I have noticed every time, EVERY TIME, I state a strong opinion about something on Facebook - a bunch of men will come forward to try to talk me out of it or convince me of something else. Every time. Only the men do this.
“The root of violence elsewhere is the normalization of violence in an intimate way in the home.”—
Gloria Steinem in an interview with BBC “Hard Talk” presenter Stephen Sackur. Steinem draws a link between domestic violence and broader national violence, also saying that the root of democracy outside the home is democracy inside the home.” Sackur interjects to display surprise and to counter her by saying that surely Western women, who have democracy in the home would disagree with her about the primacy of this connection. Steinem rebuffs him, and reminds him that in the US, were you to add up all the fatalities from 9/11 and the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, that the number of American women killed by their husbands and boyfriends in that same period of time would come out higher.
Why do we have an abortion rate 20% higher than France’s (and more than twice as high as Germany’s), especially considering most doctors here won’t perform them? The answer is any country that has universal health care, where contraception is free, where child care is free or inexpensive, where there is less poverty because people don’t become bankrupt over medical bills — those societies are simply going to have fewer unplanned and unwanted pregnancies.
And there the mask gets pulled off the Bart Stupaks and the “Christians.” If the statistics show that countries with government-provided universal health care and nearly-free abortions are, in fact, the countries with the fewest abortions, then why on earth wouldn’t the Right be the first in line to support universal health care?
Because it isn’t about “universal health care.” It’s about controlling women, period. It’s about sticking your nose in other people’s business. It’s about pushing your religious beliefs on everyone else because voices in your head tell you your Jesus is The One — even though your Jesus never said one single solitary word in any of the four gospels of the Bible about abortion or fertilized eggs being human. You’ve just gone and made it up about “life beginning at conception.” Jesus never said that. The little voice in your head said that, the same little voice that wants your grubby paws on women’s uteruses. You need help. Please get some help and leave the rest of us alone, Mr. Stupak and friends.
“Improving sex education in schools for all young people and to create a mandatory curriculum in public schools for developmentally disabled youth, including kids with Autism/ Aspergers is one of my sincere passions and long term goals. It has come to my attention, through personal experience, that these youth are extremely underserved. Traditional sex ed is taught with the assumption that all young people are neurotypical and understand basic social norms. Children and teens with Autism do not process data or have the same psychological growth and neurotypical kids and have to be taught differently. Developmentally disabled youth have a 90% chance of sexual abuse, and therefore deserve a proper sex education to protect and encourage healthy sexual development.”—
Sinnamon Love in our weekly Hump Day Hero segment, where we highlight a Sexuality Professional you should keep your eye on.
“Most people in the United States think of feminism or the most commonly used term “women’s lib” as a movement that aims to make women the social equals of men. This broad definition, popularized by the media and mainstream segments of the movement, raises problematic questions. Since men are not equals in white supremacist, capitalist, patriarchal class structure, which men do women want to be equal to? Do women share a common vision of what equality means? Implicit in this simplistic definition of women’s liberation is a dismissal of race and class as factors that, in conjunction with sexism, determine the extent to which an individual will be discriminated against, exploited, or oppressed.”—
bell hooks, Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center
Feminism is about so much more than upper-middle class white women. If we keep simplifying it into these terms, and erasing those most pivotal to the movement, we are not only doing them a disgrace, but the movement itself.
Came across an interesting article today, and since it’s late I’m just going to really recommend you read it (it has a lot about the show and background info as well) and I’ll include a lot of quotes from the article. It seems especially relevant in light of how much race discussion has gone on here recently.
Disney has worked overtime in recent years to leave that past behind, and a surprising groundswell of support from black viewers for a new TV cartoon called “Doc McStuffins” is the latest indication that its efforts may be paying off.
Aimed at preschoolers, “Doc McStuffins” centers on its title character, a 6-year-old African-American girl. Her mother is a doctor (Dad stays home and tends the garden), and the girl emulates her by opening a clinic for dolls and stuffed animals. “I haven’t lost a toy yet,” she says sweetly to a sick dinosaur in one episode.
“It truly warmed my heart and almost brought tears to my eyes when my 8-year-old, Mikaela, saw ‘Doc McStuffins’ for the first time and said, ‘Wow, mommy — she’s brown,’ ” Kia Morgan Smith, an Atlanta mother of five, wrote on her blogCincomom.com. Myiesha Taylor, a Dallas doctor who blogs at CoilyEmbrace.com, took her praise a step further, writing, “This program featuring a little African-American girl and her family is crucial to changing the future of this nation.”
Despite a surge in multicultural cartoons, like Nickelodeon’s “Ni Hao, Kai-Lan,” designed to introduce Mandarin vocabulary words to preschoolers, and 40 years after Bill Cosby’s “Fat Albert,” black cartoon characters in leading roles are still rare. It’s considered an on-screen risk to make your main character a member of a minority, even in this post-“Dora the Explorer” age. Networks want to attract the broadest possible audience, but the real peril is in the toy aisle. From a business perspective, Disney and its rivals ultimately make most of these shows in the hope that they spawn mass-appeal toy lines. White dolls are the proven formula.
Chris Nee, who created “Doc McStuffins,” said, “Disney, to its complete credit, looked at my pitch and suggested that we make the characters African-American.” Her original Doc McStuffins was a little white girl.
Okay, I will give credit where credit it due. Props to Disney for actually thinking about things and not just making her another white girl character.
Gary Marsh, the president and chief creative officer of Disney Channels Worldwide, said “Doc McStuffins” reflects a type of hypersensitivity to the power of television on young viewers. “What we put on TV can change how kids see the world, and that is a responsibility that I take very seriously,” he said. “By showcasing different role models and different kinds of families we can positively influence sociological dynamics for the next 20 years.”
That is honestly a great thing to say, you know? It’s so doubly aggravating that so many Disney fans argue over this- look! This dude is in charge of a bunch of Disney stuff and even he is getting the point here! It makes me hopeful. Hopefully: he means it.
the series has attracted a surprisingly large following among boys — and related merchandise is already selling briskly.
Sad ending line though… does it have to be surprising that boys like it, just because it features a lead girl character?? Oh gender binary… C’est la vie.
Oh thank god, I was so worried. That 50-mile-long train of vomiting rainbow and Doctor Who GIFs you reblogged definitely confirms that you’re not homophobic. Thank you for setting me at ease, you pinnacle of nonjudgmental human perfection.
Sexual assault is a crime of power and dominance. It can happen to anyone of any sex, gender, and/or orientation and the attacker themselves can be of any sex, gender, and/or orientation in any combination. It is not about desire. It is not about privilege. No one ever deserves it. It is never the victim’s fault.
If you asked scientists to design the worst possible system to educate masses of young people, they would come up with the system that much of the US has arrived at.
Drag them out of bed at 6am and send them home at 2:30, completely conflicting with their parents’ schedules and flying in the face of research that shows how much sleep kids need. Bonus points if some kids have their “lunch” at 10am.
Plop them in desks and force them to listen to adults of highly varying skill level who might have no idea how to hold the attention of 8 or 10 or 15 year olds. (In this case, blame it on the kids for being layabouts.) Even better, make these adults live in constant fear of unwanted reassignments, give-backs, or layoffs, especially the newest ones who may already be least equipped for success.
Convince the populace that teaching is a profession for losers who don’t deserve the middling salaries they already get. Extra points if you can build resentment toward teachers for having health benefits.
Resist efforts to identify the best performing and worst performing teachers. When such efforts are undertaken, use the most simplistic criteria possible, such as student performance on a small handful of arbitrary tests.
Focus all student effort on the material contained on those tests. At least 50% of this material should be a poorly-constructed, relentlessly sequential math curriculum with little to no articulated connection to the real world, and which ought to doom large swaths of kids to failure from the beginning.
Strip away physical activity, including gym class and recess, despite the fact that we know physically active kids do better.
Also, eliminate anything creative, such as art and music, despite the fact that we know these things are highly effective at keeping kids engaged with the whole school experience and getting them to do better in other subjects.
Cut budgets at every stage, from building construction to basic supplies, to the point that many schools are decrepit prisons with little natural light and not enough markers for the whiteboards. Very inspiring, very conducive to learning.
Divert a little bit of money to inflated salaries for underqualified administrators, just enough to get citizens to convince themselves that schools are awash in money and budgets need to be cut more. Make school budgets dependent on what citizens think of their local government’s performance on unrelated issues.
Then, when all of this has been accomplished, let the kids all go home for three months with virtually no attempt to encourage off-site learning or retention of previous material.
If your school is in a particularly low-income or high-minority area, this entire process should ideally be infused with an atmosphere of hopelessness so complete that people who haven’t witnessed it can not imagine the degree of despair that rules every day.
In response to the complaint of white writers about writing about people of color: “Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t,” I want to say: absolutely.
It’s absolutely true. You’re damned either way. If you don’t do it, you’re a racist. Yes, you are. Race and racism exist in this society, and if you ignore them, you’re expressing a racial privilege that you don’t, morally, have any right to. That’s a subtle form of racism.
If you do do it and get it “wrong”, you’ll get reamed, and rightfully so. It’s presumptuous of you to think that you have the right to represent a culture you don’t belong to if you can’t be bothered to properly examine and accurately portray that culture.
Further, if you do it and get it “right”, or rather, don’t get it wrong, you’ll still get reamed by members of that culture you’ve represented who rightfully resent a white writer’s success representing their culture. After all, every American ethnic minority has its writers: good and bad. The good writers are mostly ignored. Inevitably, some white writer will come along and do a bang-up job portraying that culture and will get—in one book, in one section of a book—more attention than the poc writer got over the course of three or five or ten books.
You’re a white writer trying to do the right thing, but no matter what you do, it’s wrong. And that’s so unfair to you, isn’t it?
Welcome to a tiny taste of what it’s like to be a person of color.