MEETINGS Monday at 4:30pm in Harlan House. Food and discussion. Feel free to bring a friend!
WHO ARE WE? Third Wave Resource Group is a student rights and resource group centered in Harlan House, at Cornell. We are a safe, comfortable environment for community members which provides information, equality and empowerment informed by feminism. We believe feminism is about values & ideals. Empowerment & education. Community building & understanding. (And calling people out on their bullshit).
RESOURCES WE PROVIDE Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Advocacy, access to Safe Room, emergency transportation, library, kitchen, sewing room, safe zone, and confidentiality.
Worst double standard, for real real.
Woooweee, doggie. Don’t get me started! (this means I agree far too much)
It is illegal for women to go topless in most cities, yet you can buy a magazine of a woman without her top on at any 7-11 store. So, you can sell breasts, but you cannot wear breasts, in America.
“In a perfect world, you might prefer to never queef, but as it is, you might as well laugh about it.” Read more.
Several factors cloud perspectives on BDSM and make it all the more difficult for the feminist women involved. For a start, pornography is not the most accurate portrayal of the scene. Sure it’s hot, and I’m a big proponent of porn, but it’s helpful to consider the differences between a kinky scene of whips and chains on the set of an adult entertainment film and incorporating similar stuff into a real life relationships. That is, porn will cut straight to the juicy middle of the action hot XXX material, but in reality (at least when you’re trying it out for the first time) there’s a whole lot of less sexy stuff either side. Boundaries established, safe words outlined, choices made and consent declared. Now, this can come about as a casual conversation and needn’t be a signed contract, but nevertheless it happens and makes a big difference to the personal security and state of mind of all participants.
Similarly, I doubt many practitioners of bondage and discipline get up and go about their day qualm free immediately after a session, or even roll over and go to sleep. Fetish clubs have ‘aftercare’ rooms for a reason. Sex involving BDSM is bound to be intense, and as part of a relationship where the ‘normal’ power dynamic is very different from the ‘sexual’ one even more so. The sex I have with my partner is genuinely scary, genuinely painful and I couldn’t be happier with this. But it means the attention I need afterwards is heightened and different from more typical sex. I need reassurance and comfort, and my partner knows this and will always provide.
In a village outside of Cambodia huts are specially made for teenagers to experiment with sex.
One of the girls said that:
“It’s good to have the huts. It’s a good way to find out if he’s good or bad. That way I can determine if I want to keep him or not.”
So, I was scrolling through my tumblr and saw the giant post dedicated to the anon who wanted femdom resources. The links were great but I figured as a female Dom I’d post a link to the site I found to be the most helpful. It’s not always easy finding femdom resources, but this site is amazing. It gave me the knowledge I needed to be confident enough to try being a Domme myself. There’s articles on everything from relationships, techniques, anatomy, safety, physical and psychological impacts, toy making, and play ideas. As well as a forum section for questions and support. So anywho…
Good luck, have fun, and play safe!
Thank you so much, dommes-journey! *bookmarked for future reference*
One thing I always get concerned about when seeing all the hype over the 50 Shades of Grey books is the portrayal of kink and the problematic issues of consent presented in those books. This comic, which is still ongoing, is a very sex positive and kink positive view of BDSM, while also setting a good expectation of consent and safety concerns. To top it off, it is well written as well, aside from typos. Just something you might be interested in.
Just started reading it. OH MY GOD YES PLEASE THIS IS LOVELY.
Ever hear of the Dollar Rubber Club? Well, let’s just say it will save a lot of people the agony of having to go to the store and buy condoms in public. (BTW, there’s nothing wrong with buying condoms in a store.)
Might I add that these are VERY reasonably priced.